Sex is the ultimate way of communication between husband and wife. Through the sex they can devote to each other affection to each other. But women often underestimate the problem of sex. They think men only want sex only. While women prefer to have a romance.
Men and women have sexual difference in which the new man to love when it has fulfilled his sexual needs. Unlike women, they prefer to have the fulfillment of emotional needs first and to feel the need for sex.
Men often lack understanding about the need for intimacy and a woman would think she hides her desire for sex. This often lead to fights within the family. When men want sex and women are not in the mood for it, he then felt rejected and misunderstood man who felt himself rejected would distance himself from his wife. Instead his wife felt he no longer loved her husband because her husband was no longer making out with him.
In the face of these obstacles in a marriage, it helps if both parties mutually understand the differences between them, where already many books that explain, among others, Men are from Mars Women are from Venus, Why Men Do not Listen and Women Can not Read Maps, and others. The fundamental difference between men and women is reflected in the physiological. Hormones in the body of the man who created the sexual arousal rapidly formed and released too quickly after orgasm. In contrast to women, sexual pleasure is formed slowly and survive longer after orgasm. By understanding the fundamental differences that will need male and female sex, a sexual problem can be solved properly.
The first step to create a special and good sex is through intimate communication and help each other in a conjugal relationship. With good communication, a husband and wife will be able to increase the passion and the quality of their sex.
Special sex husband and wife reminds me of the love of the sublime that has brought them together. Special sex will open a woman's heart to feel love and always remember the love of her husband. In contrast to men, sex is a privilege to release frustration and allow resurrected passion in love relationships.
Women need love to open herself to sexual intercourse, while men need sex to open herself to love. As part of the innate nature of humanity, Islam has never suppress sexual desire. Islam offers a comprehensive guide for sex can still be enjoyed a Muslim without having to lose the rhythm of worship.
Month of Shawwal, for Muslims of Indonesia, can be regarded as the breeding season. This assumption is certainly not without reason. Among students and muhibbin usually chose the moon as a time to hold the ceremony. The habit could not be separated from the advice of the scholars who come from the expression Sayyidatina Aisha bint Abu Bakr that the Prophet married the king in Syawwal. He commented, "Surely in the months Syawwal marriage was full of blessing and contains much good."
However, to achieve true happiness in the household, of course not enough to get married in the month Syawwal. There are many things that need to be studied and carefully diamalkan by married couples to achieve peace (sakinah), love (mawaddah) and compassion (mercy), both physically and spiritually. One of them-and most important-is a matter of intimate relationships or in the language of jurisprudence called Jima '.
As one objective the implementation of marriage, intimate relationships, according to Islam, including one of religious worship that is highly recommended and contains a very large reward value. Because Jima 'in the bond of marriage is a lawful way provided by God to wreak biological human desires and connect descendants of Bani Adam.
In addition, Jima 'is kosher is also a great rewarding worship. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam said, "In any charity that dick." Companion then asked, "O Messenger of Allah, whether we get rewarded with intercourse with our wives?" The Prophet replied, "Is not if you distribute illicit lust on the road would sin? And vice versa, if channeled in a halal way, you will be rewarding. "(Bukhari, Abu Dawud, and Ibn Khuzaimah)
Because the purpose of worship that is noble and worth of each sex in the household should be aimed at and performed the Islamic way, which is in accordance with the guidance of the Qur'an and Sunnah Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam.
Intimate relationships, according to Ibn Qayyim al-Jawzi in Ath-Thibbun Nabawi (Prophet's Medicine style), in accordance with the instructions Messenger has three objectives: to maintain continuity of lineage and the human race, issued a fluid that when languishing in the body would be dangerous, and took pleasure God bestowed.
Salaf Ulema teach, "Someone should keep three things in themselves: not to not walk away, so if one day have to do it is not difficult, not to not eat, for the gut is not narrowed, and not to leave the sex, because of water wells only when not in use will dry himself.
*) The Handbook of Sex In Islam (Adi Supriadi / Assyarkhan)
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