writing for parents / carers / relatives of children with special needs: strengthen the heart, chest lapangkanlah, our children are special human being bestowed on the parents special.
Imagine if one day a stranger comes to you and start making various loud voices that you do not like. Sound strokes nails on a blackboard, a loud motorcycle exhaust menggeradak or chattering loudly with words that do not you understand, just your ears.
Imagine a stranger who bother you with that voice and you are trying to do whatever he apparently could not be made to understand that you're not happy with his actions.
You scream, you push it, you try to communicate to him. But he did not care (or do not understand). If that happens, what do you do? One answer would you run amok ...
If you can imagine the events above and feel with your heart, think something like that is what is felt special children who have problems communicating.
With differences in brain mechanisms (and possibly also physiological) these special children, do not be surprised if they have differences with us. Simple things that make us just a regular thing and maybe even fun, might be considered torture for them.
For example: for children who have excessive sensitivity of riding a motorcycle with wind gusts can be very painful, wet clothes stuck to the skin is very uncomfortable, let alone bear hug the body.
Unfortunately, they have trouble expressing it. Whatever they do, does not seem to make others understand that they do not like to cuddle, or pinched, or even being touched.
Each of the children with special needs will experience a unique and distinct problem.
One reason is the difference sensoric dysfunction, which means they have a problem on the sensor / receiver means they stimulation (may be less sensitive or even too sensitive) or just a problem with translating mechanism of stimulation they receive. Once again, something that normally we think could be exaggerated by them. Often they show the problems related to their business moved at a stimulus from the outside world it would be acceptable.
There is stress every other person's eye, because eye contact means that the extreme emotional exchange. needs sympathy and expressions can be very hard for them. Finally, they reject looked into the eyes and face sseorang.
There is always need to be hugged and touched to the concentration, but because it is often excessive even always released by the people around him. Finally they chose gripping or clutching hard anything that makes them comfortable, though mugkin even hurt a grip.
In my heart screamed and yelled for them to understand, but once again the inability of communication and expression convey the appropriate circumstances, make their cries unheard. No wonder that later emerged that led to frustration tantrums (tantrums).
Not only parents who are struggling, sacrificing patience and perseverance to mengenrti their special children, know that the child is also struggling no less hard. They are trying desperately to understand what is desired and intended by his parents. They must learn the concept of behavior, the concept of parental communication, they do not understand.
So when they tantrum or tantrum, do not get yelled at. They're frustrated. Punishment will only make them broken and retreated back into their personal world that feels more comfortable for them. Give understanding and motivation, so they come back strong and fought back with us. Learning to understand each other and learn to make special communication only between them and their parents.
Remember, they are not weird, they are not naughty, they are not hopeless, they are just begging for us to try to understand because they could not communicate her wishes, fears and hopes in the same way with us. Accept their uniqueness. When you try to understand, then they will also try to understand us.
Be patient and strengthened the heart, because our children need our support to break through the dark boundaries between their world with our world.
Often parents immediately angry when the child engage in activities that are considered 'weird' in public. Tapping on the teeth, hug the people who passed by, tantrums / rages when presented with a kind of food. We sebagaiorang parents often directly reacted with anger and banned, but we should try to understand them.
If banning a behavior, replacement behavior should be introduced which has the same function. Therefore, if a child with special needs perform a movement repeatedly, do not rush to ban. Learn first what the function of the movement for the children, and offer a replacement behavior that has the same function.
For example a child who is often the hands and feet, nail biting or tapping his teeth with a spoon or other object, do not rush to immediately stop. Perhaps the behavior is performed to obtain satisfactory stimulus or stimuli (eg because the child has a low sensitivity, which makes the nerves require additional stimulation. Teeth and gums are the areas that have a lot of nerves that can increase the extra stimulation that if knock knock).
Change behaviors that hurt themselves with behaviors that are less harmful, but has a similar function. For example, introduce the child in other ways to obtain a stimulant on the nerves, like an ice cube placed on the child's teeth. The cold that stimulated the nerves in the tooth will satisfy the child, without the need to engage in activities that hurt him.
The difficult part is finding the function, of course, these activities for the child, because children usually have a limited special way of communicating. Parents should try to understand the child, and for that patience is absolutely necessary.
There are some additional knowledge that may be useful to try to understand your child's activities. Children with special needs often have differences in brain function or dysfunction, which causes them to have different limits and the ability to translate the stimulus (Sensoric dysfunction). Sensoric Dysfunction is divided into various categories, including:
Tactile Dysfunction Sensoric:
Differences in sensitivity of touch and taste Tactile sensor
Dysfunction can be excessive sensitivity to touch; not like cuddled or held; hate on certain clothing or textile materials that cause the skin discomfort; immediately change clothes spattered water because the humidity makes them uncomfortable skin.
Dysfunction can occur opposite which is less sensitive to pain. No pain when injured, was wearing thin when cold, holding too tightly while holding hands.
Behavior that appears; rubbing swab the observed object, pinching / scratching / slap self.
Sensoric Vestibular Dysfunction:
Lack of ability to maintain muscle coordination to form a certain posture.
Dysfunction of the vestibular system is made kesluitan child to maintain muscle pressure, moving the head, coordinate movement. In other words children difficult to perform certain postures for long periods, such as standing up straight, sit still and difficulty in movement skills that require coordination, playing basketball, piano, dance, etc..
Behavior that appears; children appear hyperactive, unable to sit still, rocking movement, swing swing and posture is poor. Children are also less restless when sitting up straight, tend to try to lean on something or even a nap.
Dysfunction Sensoric proprioception:
Lack of capability in the sensor system that allows children to feel the location of the body and the boundary limits of his body.
Children difficult to figure out the distance and difficulty doing a particular motion, so that tends to get tired, look memalas sit, often crashing into objects or other people. Children also seemed clunky often nudging the goods as they move.
The characteristics that may be raised children; Flapping motion (like flapping-wing), leaning, on tiptoes, could not sit still, crashing into things.
Sensoric Dysfunction Oral:
Disturbances in the sensory nervous system in the oral or mouth.
There is a mouth too sensitive, so that only likes certain types of food according to taste. Crunchy or soft foods usually be an option. They refuse solid food and clay. hazards may affect the nutritional intake of the child and can spread to all sorts of other problems.
Instead there are children who need a higher stimulation even so like mengemut food, biting my nails or other objects, or chewing gum kaet continuously.
Sensoric Auditory Dysfunction:
Differences in the ability to capture and receive sound.
There are children who are born very sensitive to the sound. Their hearing threshold is different from other children. They are very sensitive to sound. Imagine a loud noise that hurt the ears, the slightest difference in frequency can make them feel very uncomfortable.
Often children with these special abilities, I say special because of their hearing thresholds can be more spacious than the average man-in fact difficult to separate the audio ddengan another voice in the background, as a result they often seem not to understand if given a voice command.
Sensitivity they can make these kids all of a sudden tantrum or even shut themselves from the outside world, so to hear certain sounds (which is even difficult to grasp by the average person.)
Sensoric Visual Dysfunction:
Differences sensitivity to light and shadow distortion.
Children who are too sensitive to the distortion of light and shadow to make them often can not capture the object in shadow. They are also difficult to separate the two visual stimuli are captured simultaneously, and are often used as a sign of trouble was that they made eye contact points that can be understood because the eyes are usually able to accommodate the shadow face of the beholder, the surrounding light and well nodes exposing the cornea behind the retina. The impression it could be a very strong stimuli and confusing children who are sensitive to light and shadow.
Sensoric olfactory dysfunction:
The ability to smell certain objects in the vicinity.
Ability smell more odor and flavor will add to the information received and should be in if the child's brain. As a result, the same as that experienced by children with auditory and visual dysfunction sensoric, children can suddenly berserk and shut myself from the outside world.
After understanding the dysfunction sensoric, special child's parents can try to find the cause of the specific behavior of their children. I hope parents become more schools and not directly interpret their behavior in the same way children interpret the behavior of the ordinary.
At the very least, one of the causes of tantrums or who do not understand their actions could in theory reasoning by using these Sensoric dysfunction.
If the child's special sudden rages or shut ourselves from the world, do not panic - let alone angry, try to find what's slowly causing them to close down. Was there suddenly a voice is too loud from a passing motorcycle? Or the smell of perfume that makes you dizzy? For we do not bother, it does not mean do not bother for them. They may have sensors and sensory abilities far beyond our shadow.
After learning of our children struggle to merge with a totally different world with their version of the world, we should be more empathetic of the operations of 'strange' to them. Believe that all the activities they have a function-though perhaps only their own know-and try to understand. If it is dangerous activity and harm them, should we change, but do not be rude manner. Do not have a blow or a painful pinch.
Remember that no fundamental changes that can be done instantly .. there is always a process that takes time.
Hope can be useful, and make you keep the spirit.
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